Fear. Shame. Anger. Loneliness.
Negative emotions are experienced by everyone, and despite our best efforts, they often end up defining who we are. It’s important that you don’t let negative emotions damage your career.
Surprisingly enough, an area where negativity can be especially damaging is not your personal relationships but your professional life. Indeed, in an age where too many managers wrongly continue to demand that employees leave their feelings at the door, too many office workers struggle with self-destructive emotions.
It’s not just a matter of making yourself less likable in the workplace. Negative emotions can affect your career dramatically.
The unjustified speaker’s shame.
For anybody who needs to communicate every day as part of their jobs, there is nothing more embarrassing than coming across a word that is difficult to pronounce or not knowing how to express your ideas clearly.
For many, it generates a deep sense of shame and of feeling inadequate in their positions.
In the long term, people choose to speak less for fear of saying something silly or generating confusion.
Gradually, your embarrassment can affect your communication skills and become an obstacle to your long-term career.
Instead, focus on building up your self-confidence by following the advice of the Effortless English blog on how to speak like a professional business speaker. It’s time to embrace your communication skills.
The anger of the burnout.
On average, office workers spend 50 to 60 hours a week at their desk — this means that by the end of the month, they’ll have accumulated up to 2 weeks overtime.
Regardless of whether the extra time is paid or not – it often isn’t – it creates stressful tensions that affect us both physically and mentally.
When you’ve got too much stress in your life, you get angry. Anxiety becomes anger when you feel like you’re losing control. This can make you snappy or even verbally aggressive towards colleagues, managers, and irritating clients.
This could, ultimately, cost you your job.
In short, the key is to take back control of your work/life balance, through HR support and counselling.
The silent despair of the wallflower.
The fast-paced and friendly banter of the office world might seem appealing, but if you’re an introvert, you’ll have difficulties adjusting.
Indeed, for someone who is shy and doesn’t feel comfortable forging relationships with people, the office world can be a lonely place. Workplace loneliness is a problem that is too often unrecognized by companies, leading to severe cases of depression and anxiety disorders that can seriously impact a career.
A brief reminder of emotional management.
Negative emotions need to be controlled and managed effectively in the workplace. They can be detrimental to your career evolution and the relationships you build in the office.
More importantly, when emotions are raw they can be difficult to understand.
Can you name your shame, your anger or your loneliness?
That’s precisely what you need to train yourself to do, as this will give you the key to improving your feelings and getting rid of negativity.
Whether you choose to share work-related issues with a trusted friend, or to escape through your hobbies, you need to remember that you are the master of your emotions.
Don’t let them control you.
Emotions are a response to an event. The best way to protect your career from negative emotions is to address the issue as effectively and objectively as you can, preferably with professional support.