Know when to worry about changes in your elderly parents.

Know when to worry about changes in your elderly parents.


No one likes the idea of their parents going into care.


Many of us deny that it will ever happen.


Many more of us promise ourselves we’ll take our parents in when the time comes.


While it’s hard to worry about changes in our elderly parents, denial makes things more difficult.

If we don’t acknowledge it will happen – we fail to prepare.

If we take our parents in when they need professional care, we’re making life hard for ourselves and them.

Concern about your aging parents.

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As your parents get older, chances are they’ll need help.

Worse, the decision to get that help will often fall on your shoulders. That’s why it’s important you accept the possibility and know what to do.

Your parents may deny the problem because they don’t want you to worry. They may not even realize there is a problem.

In the same way they cared for you, you need to look after them.

You can find out more about the care homes near you according to CaregiverConnection and similar companies.

Think, too, about ways in which you can pay for the care needed!

But, how do you recognize when it’s time? Here are some signs to look out for.




We all get forgetful as we get old. As your parents grow forgetful, it’s your job to recognize if the problem gets serious.

The odd careless moment is ordinary. We all have those, right?

That’s why it can be hard to recognize when things are more serious.

Do your parents repeat themselves?

Do they ask you the same question multiple times and forget that you’ve already answered them?

Small things like this are signs something’s going on. If it happens once, don’t panic. Look out for it happening again.

If it’s something that happens often, encourage your parents to see a doctor.


Strange behavior.


Have your parents been exhibiting strange behavior?

This can be a hard problem to diagnose, because strange is a matter of opinion, right?

Even so, some behavior should set alarms ringing.

Have you found shoes in the oven?

Has one of your parents taken to late night walks?

Or, maybe they’ve become careless with their finances in a way that seems concerning.

Any of these things could be a sign there’s a problem. Be alert to anything that doesn’t fit with what you know of your parents.


Unable to look after themselves.


On a more basic level, recognize when your parents are no longer physically able to take care of themselves.

If they’re no longer mobile, life will become difficult.

If they’re unable to get out the house, or even get up the stairs, help might be necessary.

Depending on how bad the situation is, some home care could be enough.

If you think the problem warrants it, though, a care home may still be on the cards.

It’s important to gain some idea of what your parents want before you take action. Take the time to ask them if they would like help.

Published by Christine Blythe

Christine is the owner and author for her three blogs: Empty Nest Ancestry, Feathering the Empty Nest, and Top Web Blog Tips. Periodically, if a post topic is appropriate to either of her other blogs, they will be published as a guest post by CJB.