Both of my children have been bullied at some time during their school years.
For my daughter, it was periodic and doesn’t seem to have had long term effects on her.
For my son, however, it was constant and at times violent and our biggest frustration trying to deal with it was the Principal’s lack of will to confront bullying (and the bulliers).
In the end, it turned out that we weren’t the only ones experiencing these problems in that school and before too long the Principal was transferred to a new school. This occurred after we had already made the decision to pull Stuart from that school – and the damage was already done.
Stuart’s personality had changed drastically. He went from being the bubbly, ever-smiling, happy little boy we knew and loved to a somber, sad, depressed boy who needed intervention to help him start to get back to being his old self.
Stuart has graduated now, is working full time in a job he loves, and it’s great to see glimpses of the old Stuart, a relatively funny, lovable prankster. Still, I can’t help but wonder how much damage he has suffered from the terrible bullying.
I’m glad to see that bullying is being taken much more seriously now. There are special training and interventions for teachers and Principals for effective bullying prevention.
One such tool I’ve just come across is the “Bullying Guide” on the “Essential Classroom Management Tools” website. This guide provides information on behavior strategies, cyber bullying, children with ADD/ADHD, and general classroom management.
I’m impressed with what I see and wish resources like this were available when Stuart was bullied.